Her message
care to talk?
My response
already have
Her reply
you just said stuff
My reply
ya i know. i've already talked about it with (I named 4 people). thanks though.
Her reply
whatever
*i admit it ticked me off a little i don't see why she would say that i was appreciative of the offer but i've already talked about it. I didn’t need to talk about it anymore. I was at that point of digesting.*
My reply
wow. whatever? real mature. so basically i had to tell you what was going on even if i didn't want to just so you could be happy? i said thanks because i appreciated the offer but i don't need to talk. and if i did need to talk why would you be the person that pops in my head to talk to when you haven't talked to me in i don't know how long because of something i said because we had said if someone said something about the other we would tell each other? i'm not getting mad or anyhing just searching for clarification.
Her reply
Because I am here reaching out my offer to listen to u! offer unsolicated advice....after how u treated me! i stopped talking to u cuz of the hurtful things u said! you know i try to be a good friend and always there but u just push people away! just like how u used (insert ex name) and pushed him away. treated us the same!
yet....i am coming back in hopes u feel better! people neeed to vent but whatever if u dont want to talk ok! fine dont but the offer is still out there....
not going to make me happy if u talk to me or not. wont effect me . again whatever! ur welcome and the offer still out there
*I say it really did affect her. I mean why else would she be all mad and everything for not saying anything? My friend said gossipers are the ones who get mad. They want to know information just for the sake of knowing. Also, why would she bring up my ex? What does that have to do with her? I sent her the following message. I had to wait a bit for me to stop my internal laughter and amazement so that I didn’t say something in a way that would mean something that I didn’t want to say. *
My reply:
yes i figured it was to offer an opportunity to vent but i had already said that i didn't need to but thanks. so the whatever was unnecessary. a simple ok well here if you change your mind or something seems to be sufficient enough don't you think?
and me use (insert ex name here)? is that what he told you? is that what you see? i would never use greg. i love him too much to use him. but hey thats what you see that's your opinion.
me push people away? i know what i need when i go through different situations and i seek it out and talk to the friends who have that skill set who have what i need.
it seems that sometimes you don't grasp that concept. I feel like I am always repeating myself in this. (Insert friend name) doesn't tell me everything. (Insert friend #2 name) doesn't tell me everything. (insert friend #3 name) doesn't even tell me everything. We each have that person we count on most. We each have that person that we want to go to when things get rough and no one else would suffice. I am sure you have that person too. Would you like me to keep asking and keep pushing for you to talk to me when you don't want to or would rather not? Maybe you don't mind. Maybe you will talk to whomever to vent. but some people are more private.
I appreciate your offers, I always have. You said you are trying to be a good friend. A good friend doesn't say whatever. A good friend doesn't get mad when someone won't tell them something especially after showing their appreciation for the offer.
What I said may have been hurtful, the way I said it may not have been the best way to say it. And I apologize, but I can't take back what I said. I tell people how it is. I tell people what they need to work on. Every time I tell you something that is what you do. You get mad and you don't talk to me for months. I don't push or talk to you until you're ready to talk to me. You may be thinking no I don't. But there have been several times.
I'm sorry you think what you think about me and for how I said what I said (if I haven't said it), but I'm not going to change that about me. I'm not going to vent just for the sake of venting because that's not what I do. I talk through my problems with people who have gone through similar situations or can relate. I talk to different people at different stages of my situations. Sometimes I don't even talk to anyone. Sometimes I need spiritual guidance. Sometimes I just need to sit in silence. I'm a private person.
*She didn't respond back...it's been 2 days. I don't think she will respond back. Honestly, I could care less if she did. I just hope she understands what it means to be a friend to someone. I don't think she ever really wanted to be my friend. I think the reason she always brought up my ex even when he and I were together is because she wants him. I have told him this even when we were together. I think he enjoys that and that's why he "keeps" her around. I don't know though, this is all speculation, but it all fits.*
